Relationship Epistle

Sex and Money has no relation except you a sex hawker or a customer.  Often times I hear people say " if your man doesn't give you money, do not give him sex and or if you do not want your woman to ask you for money, do not ask for sex. Also if you don't want to have sex then don't ask for money and so many other Sex and Money relating quotes. You must have also heard such quotes. All these questions always make me wonder if the opposite of sex is Money or maybe it's the synonyms. Could it be the homophones? Perhaps the equivalents then. Could it be that in relationships what the man has to offer is MONEY and the woman SEX? If the answer to these questions is NO, why then do we put them side by side? Why then do we relate /Equate Sex to Money or Money to Sex?. 

The issue of genotypes compatibility in relationships can not be overemphasized. Yes it needs to be continuously flog until lovers understand how important it is. I have been deeply saddened for some days since I heard of a friend of my friends demise. We played together when we were younger. She died in her prime, she died when she was waxing stronger in chasing her dreams, she died living a lot of friends heart broken, she died after all the numerous strategies has been taken to keep her alive, she died after suffering and surviving series of sickle cell anaemia crisis. This is  the fate of 90% sickle cell warriors. To think that its something that can be 100% avoided makes the pain worse. The days of ignorance can be excused but not now that there is awareness for it everywhere. Lovers go check if you are compatible as soon as you start conceiving the idea of possibly getting married to your partner. Do not wait untill  it's a week to your engagement or traditional ma...

If you propose to a man be ready to pay his groom price. Let men be men. (This is Africa) So there is this latest trend of ladies proposing to their men leading to different questions; whether propose or not. My take on the matter; It is not proper for a woman to propose to a man. This is not because a woman is not permitted to express her feelings but because marriage proposal do not end at the acceptance (The word YES) in Africa. Men have this nature of going for what they want. If a man truly wants something, he doesn’t sleep until he has gotten it. If he truly loves you and sincerely wants to be with you, he will do everything possible to get you.  If he hasn’t proposed to you yet, then there is something holding him back. Proposing for a man shows he is ready for the responsibilities that comes with marriage. If he has not proposed, then he is not ready, you proposing to him will not automatically make him ready. Your proposal will send the wrong signal; th...

Double dating will give you sleepless/restless nights. You sure need your beauty sleep. Double dating is something quite common in relationships this days but then it has being in existence. Some people actually prefer to be in relationship with more than one person, most often they see it as a backup plan (things like I don’t want to put all my eggs in one basket). I have not come to tell anyone not to double date but to point out my view. As it’s a new year, one of my resolutions is; ‘not to talk too much’ so I will be as brief as possible in pointing out my opinion. Double dating will not only make you lose your beauty sleep like I mentioned earlier but some other things may result. 1.        When you double date, it hinders you from seeing the true character of the person you really want to be with. 2.        It most often make you a shadow of yourself as you keep trying not to be caught by any of the part...

In many relationships, people tend to give all they have. They obviously have reasons why they do so; top of the reasons is to keep the relationship. The habit of losing self in a relationship is not just peculiar to female but most often female. No matter how sweet a relationship is do not give every part of you; reserve something for your future spouse. Reserve something no matter what it is; it could be your body, your cooking skill, your house keeping skill, your romantic skill, just reserve something. Reserve something special, something you know will make you’re your spouse feel special, something of value, it should be valuable to everyone that notices it but then it shouldn’t be for everyone. Everyone wants to be the first to do something or get something on a general note. Every spouse will be glad to be first to get some treat from their partner. For example if you are good with cooking, and you somehow refuse to cook for any other person but for your fu...

When you are in a relationship be as flexible (elastic) as rubber (elastomeric-polymer) not as hard as iron nor as brittle as glass. Rubber has a unique flexible character. It can be stressed more than twice its original size (some even up to 200times) and returns back to normal without being strain. Iron on its own is not as rubber though ductile making it malleable but when stressed, It cannot return to its original self rather it tends to bend towards the force. Glass is brittle in nature when stressed it shatters. It cannot with stand much stress as iron nor as rubber. As HARD AS IRON;   When you are as hard as iron in your relationship, it is will be difficult for you to learn, you tend to be a rigid person who finds it difficult to adjust when the need arises. If there comes any reason that the relationship did not work out, (like heartbreak as you may like to put it) you tend to become bitter, and a stereotype person. That is why you would hear people say...