Relationship Epistle

When you are in a relationship be as flexible (elastic) as rubber (elastomeric-polymer) not as hard as iron nor as brittle as glass. Rubber has a unique flexible character. It can be stressed more than twice its original size (some even up to 200times) and returns back to normal without being strain. Iron on its own is not as rubber though ductile making it malleable but when stressed, It cannot return to its original self rather it tends to bend towards the force. Glass is brittle in nature when stressed it shatters. It cannot with stand much stress as iron nor as rubber. As HARD AS IRON;   When you are as hard as iron in your relationship, it is will be difficult for you to learn, you tend to be a rigid person who finds it difficult to adjust when the need arises. If there comes any reason that the relationship did not work out, (like heartbreak as you may like to put it) you tend to become bitter, and a stereotype person. That is why you would hear people say...

At every point in time make out time to evaluate your relationship (it is like getting feedback from your business market.) There is a serious need to evaluate your relationship, sadly, many have not seen this need. Evaluating your relationship will show you what is working and what is not. It is important you take out time to evaluate your relationship. It could be once a month, once in 3months once in 6months, once a year whatever works for you. The evaluation should first be for you and then for your partner. Some questions that could help in evaluating are given below; Ø How long has this relationship lasted? Ø How well has it being running? Ø Who is sustaining the relationship? Ø What challenges has it faced? Ø Has it bring beneficial to us (what impact has it made in our lives positive or negative)? Ø Does it favour just one partner more than the other? Ø In the relationship blue print, what has have we achieved? Ø What couldn’t w...

Kill boredom relationship is not as bad as it sounds, actually it’s needed sometimes. Kill boredom relationship to some people may sound like something to run away from (something dangerous), on the contrary, kill boredom relationship is important at a point in one's life. Life is too chaotic for man to walk alone. There is need for companion not just in marriage but at every stage of man’s life. Some people may be of the opinion that at certain stage what a man needs is family and friends only. But family and friends may not see/treat you as the only special person in their lives as they have other family and friends to care for and love. Man (human) in his nature at some point wants to be the only (most) special one to a person; now there comes this need to be in a relationship. As there are two types of relationship, one cannot jump to relationship that will lead to marriage until you might have experienced one or two kill boredom relationship(s) Kill bore...

TWO TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS There are two types of relationships; One that will lead to marriage and the one that will not/doesn’t lead to marriage. The later I term KILL BOREDOM RELATIONSHIP. Some of these kill boredom relationship gets to marriage but then the persons involved ends up enduring marriage instead of enjoying marriage which is the desire of many. How do I tell my relationship is kill boredom? You might ask; Often times you don’t know until you are out of it. But then there are signs that indicate you are only killing boredom in your relationship. Some of the signs I have been able to list out includes; 1.      A kill boredom relationship is one that has no blue print i.e no plan just flowing with the tide 2.      Kill boredom relationship is one that both of you know that in 2 – 3 years time there is no marriage in view 3.      Kill boredom relationship is one that has too many brea...